Vegetarianism and marriage

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Photo taken by me in Colombia a few years ago

I'm trying to become a vegetarian. Emphasis on 'trying'; it's a work on progress. It would be pretty hard to go through yoga teacher training and not try to become a vegetarian. Husband however, is not doing yoga teacher training and is therefore not trying to become a vegetarian. Now, I should say that he is incredibly supportive and doesn't mind at all what I eat. In fact, for the last little while he's been making me alternatives to what he cooks, or he makes meat dishes and substitutes tofu for both of us. But I'm still left wondering how this is going to pan out in our lives, with our families, our friends, potential future offspring etc. Are any of you guys vegetarians who live with meat eaters? I'd love to hear your thoughts/advice/funny stories/anything at all you want to share...


  1. I became a vegetarian after I got married and my husband wasn't interested. After time though he also became one because of the simple truths and morality about it. Even if he never made the change, I wouldn't have minded but I've always appreciated his support especially when his relatives think I am a hippie. I can't say I will never eat meat again, I am constantly changing and I have an open mind but I know I will eat differently forever because of what I have learned.

  2. Last summer I was a vegetarian but eventually went back to eating meat.I really admire people who can stay committed to becoming a vegetarian, it is a lot of hard work. Good luck with that. =)

  3. Mmm, this would be tricky!

    We're not vegetarian, but we only eat meat one or two times a week (and more often than not, the second time would be fish). We eat a lot of tofu and vegies.

    Is he happy with only eating meat 1-2 times per week - the rest of the week you could have the same meals, it might make it easier.

  4. I love meat, I ran restaurants for 10 years. So I really got to appreciate the good stuff. Vegetarians used to make my life very difficult & I took to calling them the "scum of the earth". Distasteful I know, but in my driest humour this saying got me through the most difficult nights. Of course I never once said it to a customer & I never actually believed it to be true!
    4 years ago I met my husband & fell madly in love. I then discovered he was a vegetarian! This I didn't mind in the slightest... but how was I going to tell my workmates this? My friends laughed hysterically & still laugh to this day.
    Even though I enjoyed meat, I only ever ate it a few times a week. So the change wasn't too hard. I've put a lot of energy into learning lots of vego dishes. Trying to keep variety & making sure it's not all chickpeas & tofu. I've learnt alot about wholefoods & which foods contain the minerals & vitamins one would usually get from meat.
    It's a lot of work initially, but once the rhythm is set it's easy.
    I must add that we do eat fish once or twice a fortnight these days.
    With having a child, Huckle is almost one & he has never had meat, just fish occasionally. I'm not sure how this will pan out in the future. He may see his cousins eat meat & want to try some too. Or I may decide to cook him & I a separate dish every now & then.
    For me meat isn't totally bad. In small amounts, I believe it can have benefits for your body. I'm also a strong believer in meat that has been raised ethically with natural feed.
    I'm sorry to have rambled on, I got lost on a tangent!
    I hope my story helps your situation.
    All the best.
    I hope your yoga training is going well & that you're enjoying it.

  5. theory, I would love to be a vegetarian. But in practice, if someone were to dangle a hamburger in front of me, I'd be a goner.

  6. Ramsey cracked me up. I was one for about a year in college (one of my best friends was vegan). Late one night, I thought, "I have to have a cheeseburger!" Unfortunately that was it. I have gone back and forth like though, and like Genki, we hardly eat meat. We prefer beans, and fish. We eat a lot of vegetarian meals, and occasionally have meat. The only tofu I've liked in a meal though was with Thai food. There are so many options these days, so the lifestyle would be much easier than it was 10 years ago.

    Anyhow, good luck. I heard once that people who are vegetarian live longer.

    P.S. Love the photo!

  7. My fiance is a meat-eater and chicken-lover while I try to reduce my meat intake for a multitude of reasons. There are some meats I will eat (like venison or locally purchased free-range, chemical-free chicken) but generally I don't even think to include meat when planning our weekly meals. Being the head chef in the house, it is a little easier because I can make a main dish, then prepare a chicken breast for him on the side. Some times I just make the same thing in two separate pans, one meat-free and one for him. I think what makes it work for us is that he's not super picky and we eat as many fresh, whole foods as possible so the protein isn't the star of the meal, but rather a side that only one of us chooses to eat. Good luck in your veggie efforts!

  8. First of all: I love your picture. Why did you get to go to Columbia?

    Second: I have several vegetarian friends and we've gotten pretty used to preparing food with no meat. It's pretty easy and I don't like preparing meat so it works out perfectly. Good luck with your new adventures!

  9. Hi Gaby, yes... I actually don't eat much eat (though not 100% vegetarian) and my hubby does. We usually just make vegys & rice for dinner, he grills some meat and I grill some tofu. We've become so used to it, it doesn't really seem like extra work anymore.

    Wonderful to hear that your doing yoga training several of my girlfriends are yoga instructors. xx veronika

  10. Thanks so much for all of your brilliant comments! I'll definitely take what you guys suggested on board.

    Ramsey - you cracked me up too! And, seriously, I feel ya! I felt the exact same way not that long ago.

    MJ - I go to Colombia every few years because my mom's from there and we have a very big, latino family to visit :)

  11. I've been a vegetarian and 90% vegan for about 1,5 years now and my carnivore husband was not supportive at all at first. But slowly he started warming up on the idea and started cooking meatless dishes that he would just cook meat on the side for himself.

    I don't think that he will give up meat any time soon, but I think eventually he will come to the realization how bad meat is for you and the world. I shall wait and see.

    I really want to take him to visit Farm Animal Sanctuary so he can meet his meat in person. That might be a game changer.

  12. Try going to med school .... You decide meat do too much damage in large quantities then. Well, it does help knowing a little about what you do to your body by eating meat several times a week, and a little something about how the meat is whilst alive. You may loose your apetite that way. At least I did.

    I try to be a vegan most of the time now, sometimes indulging by having ecological eggs and a little cheese. Mind, you need to get enough B12 when being a vegan. I just do mind thing and try not to make it a "religion", so not to bother kind hosteses too much.

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  14. he's back to eating chicken, but my boyf was a vegetarian for about six months this past year. i was happy to cook veg at home - it let me flex my creativity muscles in the kitchen, and to be honest, eat healthier. in that time i almost completely ditched red meat (can't so no to a nice meatball though), and wound up eating chicken or fish about twice a week.

    my favorite, easy recipe -

    a few extra tips:
    - i substitute half a cup of quinoa for the elbow macaroni, and add when i add the lentils
    - i use fresh, diced tomatoes instead of canned
    - i let it simmer for at least forty minutes (flavor and texture is so much better)
    - about 5 minutes before i'm ready to serve, i add a few handfuls of spinach and about half a cup of sliced mushrooms

    so f-ing tasty.


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