how did you choose your baby's name?

Friday, March 8, 2013



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We are having such a hard time thinking of names for this here baby of ours. My husband and I have wildly different taste in names; it's something we've been joking about for years. I suggest something like Cedar (for a boy) and he counters with, "what about William?"

Luckily for him, my taste in names has evolved and I now find myself mostly drawn to old fashioned English names, as well as French and Spanish names. But there's still a fair amount of compromise involved when we get talking about naming the little one. I have to sacrifice anything remotely unusual and he has to consider the possibility of names that aren't currently in use by an English monarch.

I chose this photo because we do seem to gravitate towards what are considered 'hipster names.' But I'm getting frustrated because a lot of the names we agree on are becoming more and more popular. Husband doesn't care at all whether or not a name is common; I really do.

So... how did you choose your baby's name? Do you care if your baby's name is common? Did you try to find a name with meaning? Did you name your baby after someone? Do you have any name suggestions for us? Pretty please...

33 comments:

  1. My husband and I were talking about baby names once and I thought of the name Atlas, but I thought nah, he will think that is so weird. But I see Atlas as a strong name- think Ayn Rand type of deal. About 10 minutes later, he goes... Atlas. That would be a cool name. I said ok you are NOT gonna believe it but I literally thought of that too. We realized later that his initials AT and my initials LA and our last name S... which perfectly makes.... atlas. You will find it in time. It might even mean waiting until the babe is born and then you might just feel something in your heart.

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  2. firstly hello and so lovely to find you here in blogworld. you make pregnancy look really beautiful! secondly both me and my husband were primary teachers when i was pregnant so names should have been hard, we didn't want to pick a name that had associations with other people's kids we had taught (which ruled out virtually the whole baby name book!)but in reality it wasn't so hard, my first daughter her name drifted into my mind whilst swinging in my garden hammock and my husband immediatly loved it too....Tilly May. my second daughters name also the same thing, it just had to be.... Poppy Anna and my beautiful boy was always to be Busby Bill, how i waidh i had time to be pregnant again, dotty is my favourite and ava!

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  3. i have no suggestions for you, unfortunately. this sounds ridiculously hard. my boyfriend and i, though nowhere near that stage, do NOT agree either. i like family names that are unusual and he likes family names that are... old. example - he wants to name a baby walter. yuck!
    kw ladies in navy

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  4. Choosing a name for our girls wasn't easy it's such a personal thing picking a name. I know that I would often sit and look at our name choice, weigh up whether it's a good name for now and when they are older and just hope they like the name you chose for them too. My husband and I both wrote down a list of names each and went through which we would consider and which was definitely just not going to happen, I know my hubby had a few rather interesting names on his list. It worked out too that the first name we decided on was in my list and so the second was in his list of names. In the end we just chose names we liked the sound of and one of my daughter's names is more common and the other I have very rarely seen. Have fun choosing a name I'm sure you'll choose the perfect name for you little baby. x

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  5. I'm interested to read the comments you'll get on this post! I also wonder the same thing. Interestingly, I fall to both of your (you and your husband) extremes. I love uncommon, unique names as well as uncommon, traditional names! We already have a running list of boy and girl names, but I won't be surprised if we're one of those couples that doesn't name their baby for 48 hours. :P

    I can't wait to see which name you guys choose.

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  6. Oh, the names. Bascially our process involves me bringing up names to Kyle. He generally rejects 90% of them but eventually we hit on one that we both love. Actually in the case of both of our baby girls we picked the name really early on. We new we were going to use the name Gwyneth nearly from the beginning. This time we talked about the name we are planning to use when we were in Sweden (it's Swedish). I think it's a matter of looking and talking and not having immediate NO reactions. This website is awesome! (http://nameberry.com/)

    Kacie

    p.s. I also care if it's commonly used or not. If I see it on facebook too much or someone famous uses it, or if I know someone with that name... it's out. =)

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  7. We're naming this little nugget Mason Kai Shields. Mason cause it means stoneworker/hardworker. Kai cause it means ocean in Hawaiian (hubs is a surfer) and openness/happiness is Chinese (I'm half Chinese). It pretty much was the only set we could agree on. I love old world strong names but the hubs is definitely someone that likes trendy names!

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  8. i don't have a baby yet, but my favorite game is to run future baby names by my hubs. although we have the same issue, i suggest more unique (hipster) names and he's more traditional.

    nameberry.com is a really good name site, if you haven't already looked on there. they have a lot of "if you like ___ then you might like ____" lists!

    my suggestions for you are finley and amelia!



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  9. Ohhhh yes. We are in the exact same boat. At opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to style and seemingly a long way from a happy compromise!

    I feel like I can't really share any name suggestions because they are definitely at the 'Cedar' end of the scale (crazily that name is somewhere on my current list!) but I'll get my thinking cap on :)

    x


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  10. Oh I can relate to this so well right now - I am a total "Cedar" girl myself, while Erick sways forward traditional Mexican names. Our challenge is twofold, not only finding something unique we can both agree on but also a name that can be said without struggle in his native tongue. We have many grandmas/grandpas that don't speak English as a first language, so choosing a name that suits everyone has been an incredible challenge! I can't wait to see what you come up with, I know it will be perfect x

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  11. I imagine Joe and I will face similar problems should we ever need to name a child. I was a teacher so I associate many names with kids I've taught which also complicates matters. Good luck :)

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  12. It is so tricky.

    That said, my man, had already chosen a girl and boy name before I was even pregnant (after his grandmother Nora and his godfather Oscar). Then when I fell pregnant, he would not suggest anything other than those two names!

    So I ignored him, wrote list after list after list then ended up naming my two Oscar and Nora! (I chose the middle names though).

    Now I'm pregnant with a third and finding it so, so tricky. Rodge only likes names he is familiar with – his current suggestions are Ines or William. However, for this babe, I have complete naming rights.

    What I do find however, whatever you name your baby, that name will always sound beautiful to you, whether you chose it or not, because it embodies your precious baby. (:

    ps I actually quite like Ines, but I'll keep making my lists again.

    My lists from last time –
    http://imogeneve.blogspot.com.au/search/label/baby%20names

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  13. Our main criteria were 1) a name that allows him to be anything he wants to be when he grows up. 2) a name that works in Spanish and English and 3) a name with an obvious spelling and pronunciation. And if all those could be fulfilled, it would be nice to have a name with a little personality. So he's Leon. And guess what? He's 5 weeks old and we've already discovered its become unexpectedly popular. Ah well. I love his name anyway.

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  14. Both our daughters were nameless for about 2 days while we played around with names. We had a few we liked and it was such a special time to try names out and then give it some space and see what felt right. We went with Genevieve and Elspeth :)

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  15. This is hard. Gray and I have decided that we both like names from our family. Older names but still deeply rooted. I think you can never go wrong with that. I think when you find "the" name though, you will know! Good luck!

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  16. Ha! This post made me laugh! It's so funny hearing people try and decide on the perfect name for their baby. SO TRICKY! We ended up with fairly old fashioned, English and French names for our kiddos. William and Madeleine. We named William after all the great English/Scottish lords (or something) and Madeleine is for Madeleine L'Engle, my favorite author! Good luck!

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  17. I stumbled over your blog three hours ago. THREE HOURS AGO! And I couldnt stop reading and staring and being happy! I am so, so happy I found you :) Lots of Love from England!!!
    Maria

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  18. You have just pretty much described EVERY conversation my husband and I had re names while I was pregnant. Anything unusual I liked and he hated, especially for boys...it had to pass the "playground" test, ie would other boys take the piss out of our son's weird name.

    We named our daughter Isabella (although we all call her Bella) and it was unusual at the time but is now very common, and I have to confess that does bother me.

    Oh, and everyone (especially your parents!) will have really strong opinions on every name you suggest.

    Good luck - baby naming is a minefield.

    Gillian xx

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  19. ahhh i've never had this problem, but that would be so tough! shoot, I don't know what you do! Maybe it will develop organically and you'll be surprised when babe arrives :)

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  20. well...you know my suggestions ;) x

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  21. we are going through this battle right now. so many girls names that i love and we agree on, but boys i find so very hard. i want to find something we both love.

    in the past middle names have been traditional and off the family tree. aila may and elliot james.

    it also has to pass the 'works in the playground' 'works in the surf' works in the boardroom' test.

    good luck. i'm just hoping sam will let me have my way after i've been through labour. that's what happened last time!

    rachel xo

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  22. We wanted less common names for our little ones :). Our son is Randall (though where you come from, that is probably quite common!) and our daughters are Laycee and Carys. I adore the meaning of Carys, which means 'loved one'. So very fitting for our littlest family member who is doted on constantly! I have to say though, we had a short list with each baby, and we were unable to name them until we had actually seen them :). Good Luck!

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  23. I have been so lucky that Mr. Kypo and I have always agreed on the same names. We both like names that are different. We have never made a list. We have never had back up names incase we change our minds. Our kidlet's names have just come to either one of us.

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  24. I was always against having a popular or too common name as well, until I read about the statistics of it. Now a days the #1 ranked name will be used for about 5,500/1,000,000 kids. Compare this to the #1 ranked name in the 80s being used for over 12,000/1,000,000 kids. I guess what I'm getting at is that naming trends are changing, and that the most popular names are now less common than they were in years past. Ultimately I think that if you love a name you shouldn't let its popularity stop you.

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  25. Choosing boy names is so hard! Add an "a" or a "y" to anything, and ta-da, it's a girls name! I say go with your gut, whatever name stands out to you, but not something that's currently toooo popular, or your son will always be referred to with his last name/initial, instead of just his name, like I always was- Jessica was a really popular name ;)

    Some Snapshots Blog
    Jess

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  26. We called our baby girl Amelie because it was the only name that me and my (Portuguese) boyfriend could agree one. I don't know what we'd have done if we'd had a boy!

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  27. OH man, what a challenge. There are so many unique names that are being popularized because everyone wants a unique name for their baby haha. I really love the name Oliver.

    I feel like it will just come to you and you'll know, that's it, that's the name!

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  28. My husband's name is William- a classic! But I really do not know how him and I will Ever agree on a name one day because we have opposite tastes too. I like hipster names like Oliver or Ruby Jane and he likes your standard names you hear every day. Let us know when you pick a name that works for both of you because I would like to know a compromise name too!


    The House of Shoes

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  29. Just today i saw on a blog a baby called "Hunter Brave", i'm much into different, unique names (mine and my boyfriend are veeery rare names), and i know your language is pretty much flexible to make up any name you feel like, but that name just had me thinking "hey man, you are on the real world here, not inside red riding hood's tale!" I mean, come on... a bit too much, don't you think? Maybe your husband is afraid of that, a baby called Apple or Hummingbird Lily... I'd do that because english is not my mother tongue, in the end it's sounds to me, but i'd never call my baby "manzana" or "ruiseñor", and last "cazador valiente", it sounds SO crazy!

    I'll tell you some names i like: Salvador, Teo, Ben, Vincent...

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  30. Some lovely old-fashioned names that are so sweet in this present day now:

    For girls: Avey, Celeste, Elise, Xanthe, Alicia, Annabel, Eadie, Lucie, Audrey, Lilli, Eva, Charlotte (more popular but so sweet), Juliette. But one of my all-time favourites is a French name, Malou. I just love it. Apparently also popular in Denmark!

    Boys are a bit harder, I agree.
    For boys: Luc, Nathanial (Nat), Sami, Jonas, Louis, Harry, Bertie, Arno, Arlo, Izzy, Charlie.

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  31. Im there with you. I REALLY don't like common Names, although I also gravitate towards old fashioned names. My two under 3yr old boys are named Jasper & George, two totally different types of names but they work. In the past I have liked names, specifically for girls that were interesting to me back then but now they are growing more and more common - a turnoff. Just go with your gut, when the baby is born you will know.
    x

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  32. What a challenge!
    I like old fashioned, unique names.
    My suggestions are.
    Girls; Gracie, Eden, Ruby, Frances and Zara.
    Boys; Hunter, Finley, River, Tyran and Nate.

    All the best Gabby. X

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  33. i don't like common names so we chose a greek name (Zoe) which is getting more common every day and add a never-heard name (Tiare). Her second name is a Rapa Nui name, from Easter Island, and means "flower". we were so lucky to visit that island 3 years ago and we loved the people, the nature, everything! i'm happy that my daughter has a little piece of one of my favorite journey with her...forever!

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